O.k. great so bad things happen to everyone. It happens to everyone, no one is exempt. I have noticed however that the same bad things can happen to two people and they can handle it completely differently?
If you had to watch these two people in action and over a period of time (like some months) you’d start to notice that different bad stuff is now happening to them.
You see the guy that really believes he’s a total victim in the situation and well you know “why does this shit always happen to me?” is the extent of his belief system with regard to how the world works and he’ll keep getting more shit and usually the really stinky messy stuff.
Because he’s a total victim oblivious to the creative nature of himself and the universe he doesn’t do anything differently and keeps holding fast to his belief that “life is happening to him”. From there naturally he’ll just keep having more and more shitty thoughts.
He’ll keep running “shitty” movies about what life is about and all the stuff that can go wrong and voila…more “shit happening” Some people like to call this “negative thinking” I like to call it stupid.
My oldest son just said to me the other day “mom you always look at the bright side or at least say things are going to work out and sometimes they don’t, but you still say it” I responded simply “son I have two ways I can possibly look at any situation” one that makes me feel good and one that makes me feel bad.
Since it hasn’t happened anyway, I’ll just choose the one that makes me feel good – why would I want to feel bad?”
Maybe that’s positive thinking, or maybe it’s just smart…I like to think I’m smart, so I’ll go with that.
There’s just no escaping it, if you tune your radio station onto SHITFM you’re gonna get shit…it’s that easy.
Now the other guy has a hugely differently perspective and he says “shit that happened”. Now that is different than saying “shit happens”. At some level there is some curiousity and perhaps even a realization that at some level something else could have happened and it didn’t…so what made the “shit “ happen instead?
“When will I be done with this shit?” Now that’s a great question.
It actually sets forth a search that is solution focussed. Running through what happened over and over will only tune your radio station to SHITFM.
Instead of that; tune into what you want to happen and start focussing on getting yourself out and into a situation you’d rather be in. Start making the best of the situation at once.
Finding some good (although this can be tough) is absolutely essential to feeling better and to keeping your radio tuned to HappyTimesFM. When you do encounter some shit, see what you can learn from it, and then make some better choices for next time.
It’s a little tricky to summarize here, but the bottom line is that your future is being created right now in this very moment, whatever you’ve tuned your radio station into now, is what you will receive. When shit happens get to a good place as quickly as possible, sure enough less and less shit will happen and the next thing you know people will be giving you are hard time for being a “positive thinker” LOL!
If you don’t find the lesson it will come back again to teach you …the universe is very patient like that.